Have You Ever Fallen In Love with You?

How many times have you fallen in love?  Once? Perhaps more?

When we’re truly in love with someone, we think about that person all the time and do special things for them. We want to spend time with them.  But, I ask you: Have you ever fallen in love with you?

Learning to love and take care of the person in the mirror can be quite a task. Between our busy work schedule and finding time for our careers, families and other obligations, it’s easy to lose track of the one special person who needs us the most — ourselves!

Whether you’re young, older, single without kids, or married with a soccer team, most women can agree that there are areas of self-love that they can improve.  No one in this world can love you more than yourself..

Have you been to public fitting rooms in a women’s clothing store and really paid attention to what women say as they are trying on their clothes? I have.  You’ll hear an occasional “This looks great on me!” or “I love this!”, but mostly a lot of self-criticism happens inside that room. We need to learn to love the skin we’re in.

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 It’s easy to get sucked into beating ourselves up for how we look and buying into all the diet fads and getting the best SPANX we can find. I am not saying we shouldn’t try to look our best, but let’s do it with love. No, you’re not going to fit into a size 4 pair of skinny jeans when you normally wear a size 10 overnight. But you can be just as fabulous wearing clothes that fit you and your body type. At the end of the day, the woman that makes a lasting impression isn’t always the skinniest or the prettiest. She’s the one that has killer confidence and leaves everyone thinking that she’s just as fabulous as she believes she is.

Being around positive people and those who love us plays a big role in how much we value ourselves. After all, the people we choose as our close friends and partners are a reflection of who we are. If you don’t feel that your partner brings out the best in you or doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, let them go! Being in dysfunctional relationships ultimately leave us unhappy and with low self-esteem, which can be very damaging. Always be prepared to put on your killer pumps and walk out of an unhappy relationship.

Too many women stay in unhealthy relationships for too long, for the wrong reasons, ultimately compromising their value. And when you’re willing to compromise too much of who you are and what you deserve, finding that self-love can be very challenging.  Same thing goes for our friends. Being around other men and women that love and respect us is crucial for our development as healthy individuals.

Everyone needs to unwind from the daily grind.  Go out for walks. Take that salsa class you’ve been wanting to take (I sure am). Learn a new skill or sport (tennis, anyone?). Sign up for money-saving sites like Groupon or LivingSocial, and find a good deal on spas, kickboxing, or an affordable girl’s night out at your local restaurant. I know you’re busy. We all are. Between work and other responsibilities, there aren’t enough hours in a day for us to get our things done. But you HAVE to TRY.

Step out of your comfort zone and learn more ways you can show love to the amazing woman you are.